"Do You Babysit?" - Livin' the Good Life
May. 27th, 2010
03:21 pm - "Do You Babysit?"
Someone asked me recently if I babysit. I said, "No, but if I did, no one could afford me!" It's not that I'm so extraordinary as a babysitter. The point is, I don't believe we can put a price tag on caring for a child. If every babysitter charged, say, $100 an hour, people would stay home and raise their own kids. In my opinion, even that would be too little! I just don't think we can put a dollar value on love, attention, and caring. Those things are priceless gifts we give. In my ideal world, children would only be in the care of their relatives, because these people will probably be in the child's life for the long-run and will have a certain "bond" with them. They have a kind of investment in that child, if for no other reason than being related. They are more likely to be at the child's birthdays, sports events, recitals, plays, holidays, graduations... all the important events and markers of a child's life than a non-relative. It is UNlikely that the babysitter will show up for these events. Especially ten years down the road. And if a child does bond with a babysitter, the reality is, there is an inevitable loss ahead. To me, it's not fair to set a child up for that loss.
Along the same lines, several people have suggested that I sell my little sundresses. So far, I've made 7 or 8 of them. I'm having so much fun sewing these adorable dresses that I can't seem to stop! But, when I imagine myself selling them, I lose some of my enthusiasm. Here's why:
I couldn't sell them for what they are worth. How could I sell the love and the care and the attention that went into them? I couldn't. I could sell them for the cost of the materials, but I'd rather just give them away as gifts of love.
A second reason I resist selling them is that if I asked a fair wage for my time, plus the materials, the price would be close to $30. I don't believe a parent should have to spend that much for one article of clothing for a child who will soon outgrow it. That's outrageous! In a way, I would be sabotoging my efforts to encourage moms to stay at home with their children, because most moms would have to go to work to afford prices like that! Better to encourage them to make the dresses themselves... or buy used clothing and put their energy into just lovin' up their kids.