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Showing Up - Livin' the Good Life

Feb. 5th, 2010

04:15 pm - Showing Up

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I find that my favorite people are those who "show up". If I put on an event and someone enthusiastically shows up, they have just made points with me. If they do it over and over and over again, I call them my family and friends. When we have a food co-op meeting, the people who I can trust to show up and energetically participate are the people I like the best. I strive to be one of those people, and I am. (I have consistantly participated, month after month, in natural food co-ops for over 35 years. In fact, I helped start the one that is still going after 25 years here in Joshua Tree.)

When I was raising children, I knew that my kids counted on me to show up in all different ways for them. They counted on me to greet them warmly in the morning. They counted on me to feed them nutritious food day after day after day and never stop until they could do it for themselves. They counted on me to care. They expected me to BE THERE. And I always was. I cheerfully got them where they needed to go and then stayed to watch. They knew I was invaryingly interested in them. I showed up on time to pick them up from things. I always really wanted to know how they were doing and if they needed help from me. They knew I was their enthusiastic cheering squad. They knew if I said I would, I would. At the time, it was my delightful purpose in life to show up for anyone who depended on me. I think that's the least we can do for our family. It's the least we can do for anyone who depends on us. You can't have a play unless someone shows up to watch it. A concert needs an audience. A football game needs someone to cheer. A swim meet needs someone to yell "Go!!" and then to yell "Yay!!" when you're done...someone who's heart swells with pride when you try your very best and they notice. Someone who is interested in you now, tomorrow, next week, next year, next decade... forever. That's how I want to be, that's how I am, and that's the kind of people I surround myself with. And for me that scenerio equals a happy life.


Date:February 10th, 2010 11:26 pm (UTC)
Nodding. Showing up is about the only parenting wisdom I have after 29 years. Fortunately it's sort of all purpose....works for every age and stage.
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Date:February 14th, 2010 05:14 am (UTC)
Yep. We're on the same page, Kathy!
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