One Who Survived the Pack - Livin' the Good Life
Jan. 20th, 2008
04:45 pm - One Who Survived the Pack
One of my very first posts, back in August of 2006, was about having to recall my worst memory from high school for the high school reunion committee. (Remember, I went to my 40th high school reunion last September?) I recalled that I hated seeing kids cruelly picked on in school. Always the same ones, too. Well, as I was ruminating over the unruly pack of junior high school kids at the movies the other night, it struck me how very young and immature they looked. There was a fair amount of picking and pecking going on, and it reminded me of my worst memories from school. The really fascinating thing that I learned from my high school reunion was that one of the kids who was especially small for his age and who kept to himself, who had been a "brain" or a "nerd" and who hadn't exactly been picked on, but was surely excluded, showed up at the reunion with his wife. He was, by far, the most handsome man there. He was exceedingly well-mannered, well-educated, and self-assured. He had seen the world, had wonderful jobs, was very warm toward his wife, and just reeked "successful". When people question the "sheltering" of children who are homeschooled and how it keeps them from fitting in with their peer group, I say, "The less they fit in the better!" I certainly didn't raise my kids to "fit in". I rathered that they "stood out" as uniquely themselves, and I applauded them for it. I stressed having good personal relationships with individuals, but not to worry about "the group". The group is clueless anyway. I think that deep down my kids understood that. That guy from my high school class certainly did not waste a lot of time worrying about the mentality of a pack of 13 year olds. He obviously had his sights on things of more lasting value. I love that story.